WOMEN’S MINISTRY SINGLE AND SAVED

The Meaning of Love

by Minister Dominique Brunson; NE NY District
 

Singles: P.H.A.S.E. Vow

 by Minister Dominique Brunson; Northeastern NY District
 

But he “says” he’s a Christian

by Danielle D. Wallace, Alabama
 
I’ve heard it quite a few times from other girls, “But he said, he’s a Christian.” And I immediately want them to stop and think about the definition of not only a Christian man but a Christian in general. Because, let’s be real, there are many that don’t understand the definition of being a true Christian. To some of us, it’s sitting in the pews every Sunday morning or to others, it may be dusting off your bibles every now in then when you’re in trouble or when you’re blessed with something amazing in your life.
 
My point is, it is not consistent.
So before we go any further, this isn’t all about recognizing a wolf in sheep’s clothing when it comes to a guy that approaches you. It’s also about “you” ladies. Are you also examining yourselves? Are you what you say you desire?
A man that says he’s a Christian but doesn’t embody the following below is only whispering what you want to hear. Trust me; I had to learn that the hard way.
Topping the list, he must be a man of prayer. Someone that is led by the spirit and not the flesh. Yes, I know anyone can say “I pray” but does he truly surrender all to God in all areas of his life?
 
And speaking of being led by the flesh, he must be a man who shows you respect, to protect your sexual purity. Ladies, there is nothing loving about a man who is always lusting after your body or trying to take something that is so sacred and meant for marriage. If you’ve stated your celibacy is a part of life until marriage and he completely ignores it, he’s not for you. I repeat; he’s not for you. Along with protecting you in that aspect, a true Christian man would never raise his hand at you. He’s a protector. He loves you as Christ loved the church. Sadly many don’t know this love. If you’re wondering what true love is…
 
GOD IS LOVE
 
He must be a man of leadership. A man led by God is a true leader of his life and eventually will become an incredible leader for his home. The only leading a “worldly man” does is leading you on to something that will never happen or leading you into temptation. For more regarding this, I encourage to read my previous article “Courting vs Dating: Why I Don’t Believe in Dating” here.
He must also be a man of vision. He sees possibilities in his future. He has goals. He’s ambitious. With him, anything is possible that pleases God.
 
Trustworthiness – A true man of God can be trusted. He’s not a liar. He’s not hiding anything from you. Which leads me to communication. If there are no open lines of communication when something goes wrong, that’s another red flag. Yes, I know men and women are different but communication is key when building relationships. Just as your relationship with the Lord requires communication to grow and flourish, so does your earthly courtship.
 
I’ve always been taught from my parents to be equally yoked and yes just like many of you, I strayed off from the path. But what I’ve learned, is if I don’t have a sense of peace about someone, then it’s not for me. If my spirit discerns something that isn’t of God, It’s not for me. For more reading on true love God’s way, I encourage you to read my article, “Love is here.”
 
And remember ladies, if you desire an “Ephesians: 5” man, you are to first examine yourselves.
 

The 10 Essential Principles of Christian Dating

by the COGBF Women’s Ministry Staff

One of the great myths of our times is that the Bible doesn’t teach us how to date! Oh, I cannot express just how incorrect that is.  In fact, we have an entire dating, courtship and marriage outline in the book of Ruth.  Recall that Ruth was the young widow who famously said in Ruth 1:16:

“ Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:”

We hear this beautiful passage at weddings all the time but Ruth was actually speaking with her mother-in-law. After the passing of her husband, Ruth solely focused on supporting Naomi and herself while living a wholesome life.  Ruth’s values were evident in the passage above and it did not go unnoticed by Boaz as articulated in Ruth 2: 8-11:

8 So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. 9 Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.”

10 At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?”

11 Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. 12 

Ruth was found!

Consider this, Ruth was a servant—a common laborer in a field full of women. (Sounds like our Christian dating scene today but I digress.) We know that while Ruth was physically dirty, the essence of her beautiful spirit was so present that the most available man in the region took notice.

Only after the urging of solid counsel from Naomi, did Ruth unleash the sweet nectar of her natural beauty which took her state of “being found” to a whole other level. Ruth 3:1-3

“One day Ruth’s mother-in-law Naomi said to her, “My daughter, I must find a home[a] for you, where you will be well provided for. 2 Now Boaz, with whose women you have worked, is a relative of ours. Tonight he will be winnowing barley on the threshing floor. 3 Wash, put on perfume, and get dressed in your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don’t let him know you are there until he has finished eating and drinking.”

This passage is so crucial because we seem to have the whole dating process backwards.  It is sad that so many women allow a man’s looks to drive them into a making bad relationship decisions. Additionally, some of the so-called “boring” prospects women overlooked might make actually their Boaz.  Going forward, these 10 essential scriptural principles should guide the dating process:

  1. Don’t waste time trying to repair broken men.You don’t need to be a social-worker in your own relationship. Scriptural Support: 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
  2. Don’t compromise your standards.Scriptural Support: 1 Corinthians 15:33  “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
  3. Don’t allow the early but fleeting infatuations to cloud your vision.Scriptural support: Proverbs 19:2 “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.”
  4. Don’t be shallow.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
  5. The Lord’s “got you!”Scriptural Support:Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
  6. Being young doesn’t give you a license to make bad decisions.Scriptural support:1 Timothy 4:12 “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”
  7. Seek advice from a seasoned member of your family or church and find a strong accountability partner.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”.
  8. No sex. No petting. No fooling around. Scriptural Support:Ephesians 5:3 “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”
  9. A solid relationship with God is your best relationship strategy.Scriptural Support: Psalm 32:8 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. “
  10. Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.”The bad characteristics of men can be hidden but so long. Traits such as: ungodliness, substance abuse, jealousy, anger, violence, infidelity and laziness will raise their ugly heads over time. Scriptural support:  Proverbs 27:12 “The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. “

Be thoughtful, prayerful and wise and God will give you the desires of your heart.

 
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The 10 Essential Principles of Christian Dating

by the COGBF Women’s Ministry Staff One of the great myths of our times is that the Bible doesn’t teach us how to date! Oh, I cannot express just how incorrect that is.  In fact, we have an entire dating, courtship and marriage outline in the book of Ruth.  Recall that Ruth was the young widow who famously said in Ruth 1:16:

“ Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:”

We hear this beautiful passage at weddings all the time but Ruth was actually speaking with her mother-in-law. After the passing of her husband, Ruth solely focused on supporting Naomi and herself while living a wholesome life.  Ruth’s values were evident in the passage above and it did not go unnoticed by Boaz as articulated in Ruth 2: 8-11:

8 So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. 9 Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.”

10 At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?”

11 Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. 12 

Ruth was found!

Consider this, Ruth was a servant—a common laborer in a field full of women. (Sounds like our Christian dating scene today but I digress.) We know that while Ruth was physically dirty, the essence of her beautiful spirit was so present that the most available man in the region took notice.

Only after the urging of solid counsel from Naomi, did Ruth unleash the sweet nectar of her natural beauty which took her state of “being found” to a whole other level. Ruth 3:1-3

“One day Ruth’s mother-in-law Naomi said to her, “My daughter, I must find a home[a] for you, where you will be well provided for. 2 Now Boaz, with whose women you have worked, is a relative of ours. Tonight he will be winnowing barley on the threshing floor. 3 Wash, put on perfume, and get dressed in your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don’t let him know you are there until he has finished eating and drinking.”

This passage is so crucial because we seem to have the whole dating process backwards.  It is sad that so many women allow a man’s looks to drive them into a making bad relationship decisions. Additionally, some of the so-called “boring” prospects women overlooked might make actually their Boaz.  Going forward, these 10 essential scriptural principles should guide the dating process:

  1. Don’t waste time trying to repair broken men.You don’t need to be a social-worker in your own relationship. Scriptural Support: 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
  2. Don’t compromise your standards.Scriptural Support: 1 Corinthians 15:33  “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
  3. Don’t allow the early but fleeting infatuations to cloud your vision.Scriptural support: Proverbs 19:2 “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.”
  4. Don’t be shallow.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
  5. The Lord’s “got you!”Scriptural Support:Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
  6. Being young doesn’t give you a license to make bad decisions.Scriptural support:1 Timothy 4:12 “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”
  7. Seek advice from a seasoned member of your family or church and find a strong accountability partner.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”.
  8. No sex. No petting. No fooling around. Scriptural Support:Ephesians 5:3 “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”
  9. A solid relationship with God is your best relationship strategy.Scriptural Support: Psalm 32:8 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. “
  10. Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.”The bad characteristics of men can be hidden but so long. Traits such as: ungodliness, substance abuse, jealousy, anger, violence, infidelity and laziness will raise their ugly heads over time. Scriptural support:  Proverbs 27:12 “The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. “

Be thoughtful, prayerful and wise and God will give you the desires of your heart.

The 10 Essential Principles of Christian Dating

by the COGBF Women’s Ministry Staff One of the great myths of our times is that the Bible doesn’t teach us how to date! Oh, I cannot express just how incorrect that is.  In fact, we have an entire dating, courtship and marriage outline in the book of Ruth.  Recall that Ruth was the young widow who famously said in Ruth 1:16:

“ Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:”

We hear this beautiful passage at weddings all the time but Ruth was actually speaking with her mother-in-law. After the passing of her husband, Ruth solely focused on supporting Naomi and herself while living a wholesome life.  Ruth’s values were evident in the passage above and it did not go unnoticed by Boaz as articulated in Ruth 2: 8-11:

8 So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. 9 Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.”

10 At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?”

11 Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. 12 

Ruth was found!

Consider this, Ruth was a servant—a common laborer in a field full of women. (Sounds like our Christian dating scene today but I digress.) We know that while Ruth was physically dirty, the essence of her beautiful spirit was so present that the most available man in the region took notice.

Only after the urging of solid counsel from Naomi, did Ruth unleash the sweet nectar of her natural beauty which took her state of “being found” to a whole other level. Ruth 3:1-3

“One day Ruth’s mother-in-law Naomi said to her, “My daughter, I must find a home[a] for you, where you will be well provided for. 2 Now Boaz, with whose women you have worked, is a relative of ours. Tonight he will be winnowing barley on the threshing floor. 3 Wash, put on perfume, and get dressed in your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don’t let him know you are there until he has finished eating and drinking.”

This passage is so crucial because we seem to have the whole dating process backwards.  It is sad that so many women allow a man’s looks to drive them into a making bad relationship decisions. Additionally, some of the so-called “boring” prospects women overlooked might make actually their Boaz.  Going forward, these 10 essential scriptural principles should guide the dating process:

  1. Don’t waste time trying to repair broken men.You don’t need to be a social-worker in your own relationship. Scriptural Support: 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
  2. Don’t compromise your standards.Scriptural Support: 1 Corinthians 15:33  “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
  3. Don’t allow the early but fleeting infatuations to cloud your vision.Scriptural support: Proverbs 19:2 “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.”
  4. Don’t be shallow.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
  5. The Lord’s “got you!”Scriptural Support:Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
  6. Being young doesn’t give you a license to make bad decisions.Scriptural support:1 Timothy 4:12 “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”
  7. Seek advice from a seasoned member of your family or church and find a strong accountability partner.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”.
  8. No sex. No petting. No fooling around. Scriptural Support:Ephesians 5:3 “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”
  9. A solid relationship with God is your best relationship strategy.Scriptural Support: Psalm 32:8 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. “
  10. Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.”The bad characteristics of men can be hidden but so long. Traits such as: ungodliness, substance abuse, jealousy, anger, violence, infidelity and laziness will raise their ugly heads over time. Scriptural support:  Proverbs 27:12 “The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. “

Be thoughtful, prayerful and wise and God will give you the desires of your heart.

The 10 Essential Principles of Christian Dating

by the COGBF Women’s Ministry Staff One of the great myths of our times is that the Bible doesn’t teach us how to date! Oh, I cannot express just how incorrect that is.  In fact, we have an entire dating, courtship and marriage outline in the book of Ruth.  Recall that Ruth was the young widow who famously said in Ruth 1:16:

“ Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:”

We hear this beautiful passage at weddings all the time but Ruth was actually speaking with her mother-in-law. After the passing of her husband, Ruth solely focused on supporting Naomi and herself while living a wholesome life.  Ruth’s values were evident in the passage above and it did not go unnoticed by Boaz as articulated in Ruth 2: 8-11:

8 So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. 9 Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.”

10 At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?”

11 Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. 12 

Ruth was found!

Consider this, Ruth was a servant—a common laborer in a field full of women. (Sounds like our Christian dating scene today but I digress.) We know that while Ruth was physically dirty, the essence of her beautiful spirit was so present that the most available man in the region took notice.

Only after the urging of solid counsel from Naomi, did Ruth unleash the sweet nectar of her natural beauty which took her state of “being found” to a whole other level. Ruth 3:1-3

“One day Ruth’s mother-in-law Naomi said to her, “My daughter, I must find a home[a] for you, where you will be well provided for. 2 Now Boaz, with whose women you have worked, is a relative of ours. Tonight he will be winnowing barley on the threshing floor. 3 Wash, put on perfume, and get dressed in your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don’t let him know you are there until he has finished eating and drinking.”

This passage is so crucial because we seem to have the whole dating process backwards.  It is sad that so many women allow a man’s looks to drive them into a making bad relationship decisions. Additionally, some of the so-called “boring” prospects women overlooked might make actually their Boaz.  Going forward, these 10 essential scriptural principles should guide the dating process:

  1. Don’t waste time trying to repair broken men.You don’t need to be a social-worker in your own relationship. Scriptural Support: 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
  2. Don’t compromise your standards.Scriptural Support: 1 Corinthians 15:33  “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
  3. Don’t allow the early but fleeting infatuations to cloud your vision.Scriptural support: Proverbs 19:2 “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.”
  4. Don’t be shallow.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
  5. The Lord’s “got you!”Scriptural Support:Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
  6. Being young doesn’t give you a license to make bad decisions.Scriptural support:1 Timothy 4:12 “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”
  7. Seek advice from a seasoned member of your family or church and find a strong accountability partner.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”.
  8. No sex. No petting. No fooling around. Scriptural Support:Ephesians 5:3 “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”
  9. A solid relationship with God is your best relationship strategy.Scriptural Support: Psalm 32:8 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. “
  10. Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.”The bad characteristics of men can be hidden but so long. Traits such as: ungodliness, substance abuse, jealousy, anger, violence, infidelity and laziness will raise their ugly heads over time. Scriptural support:  Proverbs 27:12 “The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. “

Be thoughtful, prayerful and wise and God will give you the desires of your heart.

The 10 Essential Principles of Christian Dating

by the COGBF Women’s Ministry Staff One of the great myths of our times is that the Bible doesn’t teach us how to date! Oh, I cannot express just how incorrect that is.  In fact, we have an entire dating, courtship and marriage outline in the book of Ruth.  Recall that Ruth was the young widow who famously said in Ruth 1:16:

“ Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:”

We hear this beautiful passage at weddings all the time but Ruth was actually speaking with her mother-in-law. After the passing of her husband, Ruth solely focused on supporting Naomi and herself while living a wholesome life.  Ruth’s values were evident in the passage above and it did not go unnoticed by Boaz as articulated in Ruth 2: 8-11:

8 So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. 9 Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.”

10 At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?”

11 Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. 12 

Ruth was found!

Consider this, Ruth was a servant—a common laborer in a field full of women. (Sounds like our Christian dating scene today but I digress.) We know that while Ruth was physically dirty, the essence of her beautiful spirit was so present that the most available man in the region took notice.

Only after the urging of solid counsel from Naomi, did Ruth unleash the sweet nectar of her natural beauty which took her state of “being found” to a whole other level. Ruth 3:1-3

“One day Ruth’s mother-in-law Naomi said to her, “My daughter, I must find a home[a] for you, where you will be well provided for. 2 Now Boaz, with whose women you have worked, is a relative of ours. Tonight he will be winnowing barley on the threshing floor. 3 Wash, put on perfume, and get dressed in your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don’t let him know you are there until he has finished eating and drinking.”

This passage is so crucial because we seem to have the whole dating process backwards.  It is sad that so many women allow a man’s looks to drive them into a making bad relationship decisions. Additionally, some of the so-called “boring” prospects women overlooked might make actually their Boaz.  Going forward, these 10 essential scriptural principles should guide the dating process:

  1. Don’t waste time trying to repair broken men.You don’t need to be a social-worker in your own relationship. Scriptural Support: 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
  2. Don’t compromise your standards.Scriptural Support: 1 Corinthians 15:33  “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
  3. Don’t allow the early but fleeting infatuations to cloud your vision.Scriptural support: Proverbs 19:2 “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.”
  4. Don’t be shallow.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
  5. The Lord’s “got you!”Scriptural Support:Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
  6. Being young doesn’t give you a license to make bad decisions.Scriptural support:1 Timothy 4:12 “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”
  7. Seek advice from a seasoned member of your family or church and find a strong accountability partner.Scriptural Support:Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”.
  8. No sex. No petting. No fooling around. Scriptural Support:Ephesians 5:3 “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”
  9. A solid relationship with God is your best relationship strategy.Scriptural Support: Psalm 32:8 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. “
  10. Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.”The bad characteristics of men can be hidden but so long. Traits such as: ungodliness, substance abuse, jealousy, anger, violence, infidelity and laziness will raise their ugly heads over time. Scriptural support:  Proverbs 27:12 “The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. “

Be thoughtful, prayerful and wise and God will give you the desires of your heart.